Posts tagged Communication
Borderline Personality Disorder

Before I get to the text about the main subject of this missive, a relatively new term emerged to the public this week. The term is ‘callous unemotional traits’. This is the term that psychiatrists give to a set of symptoms that they see in some children – children who go on to be over-represented in prison populations and sometimes, in extreme cases, become what we call ‘psychopaths’.

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Overcoming setbacks and building resilience

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Setbacks. We all have them. I remember being turned down for five HR director jobs before one finally landed. In one case I was even flown to an interview in Missouri, US, only to discover the day after I got back that I hadn’t been successful. The thing about setbacks, failures and being turned down is that they only represent a brief moment in time. Thinking back, I see now that at least one or two of the jobs I applied for wouldn’t have been right for me.

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Letter from America

One of my childhood memories is waking up on a Sunday morning, and coming downstairs to a family breakfast. I am the youngest of five children and we always had a large breakfast before going off to church where my father was a minister. To complement the delight of our tasty cooked breakfast, my Dad always had Radio 4 on in the background. The programme I remember vividly is Alistair Cooke’s letter from America.

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Giving back and be careful what you tell your children

As many of you will know, I have a strong interest in helping youngsters from poor backgrounds – particularly in the areas of social mobility and employability. We have a not for profit entity called Bridge Builders that is designed to do just this. We provide mentoring for schools. Our mentors are middle and senior managers from corporate organisations. Our vision is 100 schools, 1000 pupils, 250 mentors. We are looking to sign up more mentors and more corporate partners. Interested?

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Honesty and feedback III

There is an opportunity for someone at the end of this week’s note – read to the end so you don’t miss out. This is probably my final message on this topic for a while. I am having lots of questions and discussions about how to have honest conversations. So, this week, I thought I would give some practical tips.

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Honesty and feedback II

It seems that last weeks note prompted many of you to have some honest conversations. This is great news. I was pleased to receive comments about how good and relieved people felt after having them. There is, partly, a scientific explanation for this. It is linked to a chemical in our bodies called oxytocin.

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Honesty and feedback

I’ve included a personal story this week but you’ll need to read right to the end to get there. But first, thank you to Rita Lawrence from NHS Medway for writing the main part of the news letter last week. I promised to give an update on the many responses I received a few weeks ago in relation to the development of mediation since April.

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Building Better Relationships

For some time, I have been thinking that I would like to write regularly about the importance of building good relationships. I woke up on the morning of Thursday 2 July and for hours; it was the only thing on my mind. So, I’ve decided to do something about it.

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