Liked, respected or both?

We appreciate frankness from those who like us. Frankness from others is called insolence
— Andre Maurois


I’ve touched on this theme before.  Two weeks ago a matter came up that I needed some guidance and advice on. Because of the nature of the issue, there were only around a dozen people in the mediation industry that I could think of who could have given me a view.  I decided to call a lawyer, well known in the mediation field.  I have known him for around 6 or 7 years. The reason I approached him was because in all my previous dealings with him, he has struck me as being honest and non-political.

We spoke for about half an hour. I didn’t like his view, but he was, as usual, honest. Our interaction reminded me of an advanced presentation skills training course I attended in 1998.  The trainer drove home a point about how we might approach our work. The corollary was that it is great to be liked – but it’s more important to be respected. To achieve both is ideal, but not always possible.  We normally respect people who are honest with us.  Of course, it is also important to think about how honest messages are framed.

Time has moved on.  However, should I need a listening ear in the future on a similar issue, I would still go back to him and seek his advice – even with the knowledge that he is likely to tell me something that I might not find palatable.

 The Equality Bill

You might have heard or seen the news that the Equality Bill has completed its passage through the House of Commons and will become law. The new legislation incorporates the latest amendments made in the House of Lords, including the ban on pre- employment questionnaires. The Bill is expected to receive Royal Assent in the next few days and come into force in October 2010.

By the way, if your organisation is interested, we are running an increasing number of 1-2 hour in-house equality and diversity briefing sessions.  Just shout if you would have an interest in running one at your organisation.  We also plan to bring our webinar on Equality ans Diversity forward to June.  More to follow…

Finally – how nice to have some glorious weather here in the UK for a change. I hope it is the same for readers outside UK shores.

Mayor falls asleep during school play

Man tries to resuscitate dead opossum

Security guard nails thief

Ex-wife seeks payout from Wall Street banker

Next webinar 22nd April with Alison Brimelow CBE, President – European Patent Office

Train to become an accredited workplace mediator 27th April – Birmingham

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