What have you missed out on?

When I was about 6 or 7 I remember being in the back of my dad’s van. No, not the luggage compartment. Nowadays it would be called a people carrier. We were stuck in traffic, going through the small town of Evesham. A couple walked past on the pavement beside us. They glanced into the van. I poked my tongue out. My dad saw what I did. He gave me a good hiding, there and then.

One of the principles my dad taught us was about the importance of getting on with people. He liked to do his bit. He even regularly picked up hitchhikers. I didn’t fully understand the importance of his principle then. I do now.

What have you missed out on?

Each of us foregoes opportunities when we are in conflict or a strained relationship with someone. I had breakfast with a friend in Manchester last week. He was telling me about a piece of work he had commissioned. A name came up in our conversation. The person is highly competent and could have easily done the job. However, because of a spat they had had a short while ago, my friend didn’t call him.

This kind of thing happens every day. It could happen to you and it could happen to me. We will never fully know what we miss out on because of poor relationships.

Examples might include:

  • Failing to be selected for an internal promotion
  • Not getting an external job offer (it’s a small world – people talk)
  • Not being invited to work on an influential project team or committee
  • Being one of the last to find things out
  • And the list goes on…

If you have attended one of our courses on the theme of relationship building, you’ll be familiar with the tax/dividend formula of relationships. If you haven’t, I recommend a book called ‘The Speed of Trust’ written by Steven Covey. It’s a valuable read.

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